Those Three Words Are Said Too Much, They're Not Enough

It's a rare song that connects so deeply with me, invigorates ideas, thoughts, spurs emotions, makes me wonder about things. Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol does this for me. I love the lyrics, but in truth, its placement in Grey's Anatomy as Kathryn Heigl tried to come to grips with Denny's death was the first reason I paid attention to the song. I don't think there's been a more perfect use of a song in an episode of television. I cried, I've watched that scene multiple times over, I've purchased multiple versions of the song and Grey's just reused it in two different episodes as Derek Shepard died. That's how I know this particular song affected a lot of people, not just me.

The lyric, "Those three words are said too much, they're not enough" are my favorite. I assume they're talking about "I love you" when they refer to those three words. I connect with this on a deep level. It seems as though I love you has become too easy to say, easy to throw around and blurt out in a moment of passion, or a passing goodbye. Which got me thinking, what would I rather hear from my partner, lover, husband, mate, the one, instead of "I Love You"?

To me, I'm IN Love with you, has always felt bigger, more truthful. Its so easy to love someone, but to be IN love with someone, is breathtaking, life changing. Love is so powerful and to be able to step into LOVE with someone is what we're all hoping to experience in our lives, isn't it? To be IN love with someone intimates that you're in it together, that this is a dual experience, its not one sided, its reciprocated and you're on a magical journey together. Being IN Love with someone is a choice, not just a happenstance. Sure, we like to say I'm falling in love with you, because love can feel like that. Like you're suddenly hurtling towards an unknown experience with the wind in your hair, no control over where you'll land, if you'll land or if it will be a soft or a hard landing. If you're lucky you keep flying, catching bursts of wind that pull you back into the clouds, amongst the stars, dancing together.

Are there other phrases you would rather hear than I love you?

Here are some that I thought might be nice.

I can't breathe without you.
You compliment me better than anyone or anything.
You inspire me.
I don't want to live without you.
You Changed my Life.

Let's dance.

The scene that started it all.
https://youtu.be/tFgk9PfjKF8

Shattering a Legacy or a Life Left Behind

Flipping through Oprah's latest Reading List for the month of November, or shall I say clicking, since I was doing it on my computer, I came across the description of "The Journals of Spalding Gray"

Edited by Nell Casey

"The brilliant, tormented performer mesmerized audiences with his autobiographical monologues, but most revealing are these diaries leading up to his suicide in 2004."

 I continued clicking through the list and in the flash of a few thoughts thought about reading that book and what it must be like. I wondered how dark it is and whether or not it was something I would be interested in reading. My next thought was will I ever have people read my published journals after I'm gone? I highly doubt that I will ever publish a journal that leads up to my suicide, but I suppose you never know where life can lead you or the trauma that can change your very soul and being. What makes your journal or your stories worthy to published, let alone read by other people? Is it the fascination of how a creative mind like Spalding's works? The mystery of what could cause a person to commit suicide? The brief moment to connect on a soul level and relate to one another's humanity?

I write blogs, I write screenplays, I would like to write a novel one day. I love when people read my writings and are moved by them or feel compelled to share them with other people. Is that a legacy being left behind already? Can you leave a legacy in small doses everyday of your life? Or is a legacy only left when you have something profound and worthwhile to say? Do you think Spalding Gray would want to be remembered for his diaries leading up to the darkest day of his life? Is a legacy something that you have no control over and is simply up to those whom you leave behind to define for you?

All of this in a few clicks of the computer and a fleeting moment of thought. The human brain is amazing. I wonder when we're going to be able to access that other 97% of it that we don't use.