The Extinction of Unexpected Couples? or How Online Dating is Going to Ruin the Fun for the Rest of Us.

Recently, a friend reached out to me with a brilliant idea, she was going to set me up on a blind date with a friend of hers that she thought I would hit it off with. I've never been on a blind date so I thought, what the heck, why not? I've been pretending to online date for the past few years, and I say pretend because I go back and forth between actually following up and putting my energy into it. Which, I get, defeats the purpose, but I can only get so excited about so many people and send them enlightened, enchanting messages, only to never hear back from them all the while receiving messages from the douche bag who leads with, "Want to fuck?" for so long.

Its disheartening, so I immediately jumped at the idea of getting set up by a friend who knows me, knows who I am, what I like and presumably knows the guy she has in mind for me and thought, hey, they'd make a cute couple.

My girl texted me and said, "Can I give your info to my friend?" to which I replied, "Of course." "Great, sending it now," she said.

I never heard from the guy. Naturally, I asked my friend what happened. And she said, "Oh, he only dates Asian girls." and since I am most definitely not Asian, I didn't even get the chance to meet him.

Fine, I don't NEED to waste my time on a guy who does not want to date me from the get-go, but I had an epiphany after this happened. If this, order exactly what you want, down to height, hair color, ethnicity, online dating continues, we are going to see the Unexpected, "Really, THEY'RE together", kind of couples go extinct.

I may not be Asian, but WHAT IF, the two of us met, sparks flew and we found the love of our lives in an unexpected place? He'd spend the rest of our relationship looking at me, thinking, "Wow. Who woulda thunk it?" And maybe people who knew him would think, "Whoa, I thought he only dated Asian girls, how weird that he would fall for a white girl." (Which boggles the mind on a whole other level, because when do we get to start falling in love with people's souls instead of their packaging? But that's a whole other rant.) And perhaps I would be thinking, "I never thought I'd fall for a guy who's shorter than me, but WOW, just being next to him excites me, challenges me, inspires me. . . it doesn't make sense, but it does."

No one understood Mila Kunis dating McCauley Culkin for so long, but something about it worked!

Online dating may be expanding our dating pool by giving us access to people we'd maybe never come across, but its also limiting our ideas about what is possible. I've met many guys from Online dating and it is amazing how many times I've been VERY into someone via text and email but the second we got in the same room, face to face and felt one another's energy we were like, Holy cow, this is not going to work and WHY did I send him those racy pics? And vice- versa, walked into a room, made eye contact with a complete stranger, felt that spark, that pull, the magnetism and the knowing that somehow they were going to be a significant part of my life, even though had I come across them online I'd have swiped left.

Open your minds, open your hearts, get your head out of your computer and be OPEN to the unknown, that, my friends is when life gets FUN!

Shattering "Signs" that Pop up in Your World.

Pay attention to the world around you. If you listen carefully, you can hear the universe talking to you. I started paying hyper attention to my world about a year ago. I met a new friend who seemed to open up a magical effect in my life. The kind of magical effect where everything seemed to be falling into place. Sometimes I think that may be why I met this person. Why I was drawn to strike up a conversation with them, and why we seemed to instantly know one another. As a result of that first encounter I now have "signs" that pop up in my life that literally let me know I'm on the right path. Doing what I'm supposed to be doing, living how I'm supposed to live.

As we've entered into 2011, I've been hyper aware of the signs, as well as the simple fact that this world as we know it is changing. If you follow anyone in the "energetic" or "metaphysical" world, you too have probably heard that the world as we know it is changing. That we're emerging in a higher consciousness. Energy is shifting and changing at lightening speed. For me, lately, the signs have come from some unusual or unexpected sources. Screaming at me from billboards all around town are things like "BELIEVE: Trust your Instincts" and "Stay Extraordinary".

The fun things about billboards and messages the universe likes to share, that I've noticed, is that there's always an irony or a moment where I stop and say, Really? That's an ad for that?!

Take the Believe: Trust your Instincts campaign. Which is actually an advertisement for . . .

yup. Vodka. Belvedere Vodka.

The magic comes from being able to absorb the signs, understand the message and roll with it, without going into judgment about the vehicle the universe is using. Its definitely much more fun!

Diet Coke.

I'm not saying that its unusual that ad campaigns are playing on my emotions, or shocking me with witty slogans, but I have just noticed lately that a lot of what is floating around in the collective conscious is making it into our world through many different vehicles.

I'm still learning how to read and interpret the signs in my world. It's been so much fun. How can I begrudge a message as simple as Stay Extraordinary. First of all, thank you, Diet Coke for acknowledging how awesome I am, and 2nd for providing a smile in my day!

Don't worry, signs aren't limited to advertisements. You can get them in songs that play over and over again in a single day. If you hear a song multiple times in one day I highly recommend checking out the lyrics or connecting what it is you're supposed to learn that day from THAT song.

The streets of Los Angeles are dotted with billboards for the movie, The Adjustment Bureau, lately and I can't wait to see it. I also noticed the other day that one of their ads resonated with me in a huge way. It's practically the only ad I see for the movie now, and for me, it seems to be a simple recipe for manifesting and creating my world.

Desire. Obtain. Cherish.

Fate or Free Will?

Listening to the universe is not a science that anyone can trace, or anyone can prove. The simple act of believing is all that is takes. . .Like my good friends at Belvedere Vodka like to remind me from time to time.

Believe. Trust Your Instincts.

Your gut will never let you down. If you think you're right. You're right.

Get out there. Listen to those signs and have fun fighting for your fate.